In suicide prevention work its important for the teenager or older adult to recognize that they are suffering intense psychological pain. There has to be the motivation to understand how to clarify the problem and using the techniques described above focus on using and developing strategies for change. Problem solving is where you need to start, moving towards a more positive outlook on life and developing coping strategies to help you strengthen your identity as a person with talents and skills. If you have been seriously intending to take your own life, then this also has affected your family members also. Both of you have experienced immense emotional pain and this will provide you with the motivation perhaps to change direction.
What you need to do is the following:
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Focus on the positive benefits of being alive and in a successful career. Remember change is not easy but the rewards are many.
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There are costs in changing. You may have to move away from some of your mates who are having a destructive influence in your life and get involved with more positive role models. if you are involved with EMO, do you think you can handle your mates involvement with EMO?
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Changing your negative thinking into positives will help you survive over the years ahead in work school and in developing new fulfilling relationships.
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Keep believing in your abilities and focus on your strengths not your weaknesses.
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Realize their is a way out of helplessness and hopelessness. I have shown you some alternatives on this website, use them and become more effective as a person and get involved with showing others how to overcome constricted thinking.
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Life is for living, so learn to explore problems using these skills learned here. Learn not to avoid people who dislike you but try to see some goodness in them, even if it's something small. Then make contact with them, increase the frequency of contact and you will see the problem dissolving.
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Clarify your goals. Think where you are going in life and what you want out of it. Eradicate all negatives out of your mind and think productively as stress an anxiety are generally not productive.
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Make firm decisions how you plan to interact on Facebook, Bebo, Second Life, My Space and so on social networking sites.Avoid memorial sites and glorifying recent and previous suicides. Use the networks for building up initial relationships with people you can really trust.
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Questions about your thinking. Those who self harm rarely monitor their thoughts with a confidante. This is vital in order to get around the major problem of constricted thought patterns. How would your best friend see your problem? What advice might she give you?
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Think about reality! Suicide means you do not come back, you are dead.Think of the heartache you leave behind and the traumas your best friends will suffer for years if they find you.It's better to sit down with either myself or a parent, or teacher or pastor, or psychiatrist /psychologist and explore how to deal with the problems that are causing you deep intense psychological pain.
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Plan with someone important to you how to overcome future feelings of burdensomeness, lack of connectedness and impulsivity. Change how you think about these factors. You are in reality never a burden to anyone, even if you think you are. Plan to build connections with parents and both sisters, brothers and even cousins. Avoid impulsive acts.